Well let me start by complimenting you,
What a selfless act, donating to help other families be filled with life and love, you are kind, generous and very much appreciated by many, thank you.
I’m a mother to a beautiful 13 year old daughter. I have raised her as a single mother, done the hard yards and am very proud of her. Unfortunately, being unwilling to introduce men in and out of her life, I chose to remain single until she was at an age to articulate her own feelings about perhaps sharing her mum and her feelings about the potential new male person in our lives. It was my daughter who sat me down and told me that it was time that I start to look for someone special. And so I did. It took a very long time of me being rather choosy but my patience paid off as I’m now the proud girlfriend to the kindest most beautiful man I have even known in my life in 37 years. My daughter loves this man and together we have created a small family. There is one thing missing…. I have always wanted another child to complete the package, my daughter has always craved a sibling and my partner has always wanted a child of his own. Here is lies the problem, we have both waited years for the right person to do this with, fertility clock is ticking! The saddest part is that my partner has abnormal sperm and we think due to some childhood trauma this is unable to be corrected. he is strong, but inside I know he cries that his opportunity has been taken away and he feels he is disappointing myself and daughter. Daughter is fully aware of what the discussions have been, her thought process? “That could easily be you or me mum, it’s ok, we will stick together and just so long as he knows we love him no matter what, things will be ok for us all”. This is an example of why I’m proud of her.
Ok, so there’s a little background as to why I am creating this post.
So, let me tell you ideally what I would like to happen from here on in….
I would like to be a mum, for my partner to be a dad and my daughter to be a sister.. How to make it happen?
We both work full time and are middle class, struggling to get by like many, we are not wealthy. As much as we want this, we cannot sacrifice tens of thousands of dollars to make it happen as that would take away from the child that is already here, we have to prioritise, that’s what parents do, even if it means huge sacrifices
I guess, I would ideally like a man to donate naturally. I know my partner and I would be strong enough to get through what would ordinarily be seen as infidelity, we love and understand one another beyond most couple I know.
I would like the opportunity to be this childs full time family, I would never want to have a child with the pre knowledge of having custody battles of which only the child would suffer. I would ideally like to find a selfless individual whom has already had a family and would not like any more of his own children. I will not financially need any assistance and have not once even taken financial assistance in the past for my 13 years old, I have always worked hard, we have been a team. I would need to be honest with my own family as to how this much wanted and loved child came into the world but would be willing to keep your private details an absolute secret until adulthood should that be needed to protect your own existing family. This child would be loved, secure and happy. My own daughter has never met her father and feels that life is just grand in comparison to most of her friends who have come from broken homes, she knows the truth, asks questions but has no desire to contact him and upset the apple cart. His details lie in my mind, she does not know them.
I’m hoping someone out there will be a match for what we are needing / wanting. I’m truly amazed at how many men are on this site willing to help those in need. We sometimes get bogged down in the negatives of life, we this is proof that people are generally good and kind. Best wishes to everyone on their search and journey, I hope you all find that special person to build your dreams with.